“There are four lights!”- Jean-Luc Picard
Hey blog readers, it’s me Howie Defranco, firstly I hope you all had a good Halloween, secondly today’s topic is about Domestic abuse. I’m going to take a minute to discuss the quote at the top, it’s a quote about psychological torture and making someone do what they don’t really want to do (it’s also a really good Star Trek episode). Anyways the reason why I bring that up is that domestic abuse is both a physical and psychological torture that a person has an incredibly difficult time getting away from. Now wait a minute here someone might disagree and say domestic violence isn’t the same as torture. Domestic violence is defined “as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person.” In comparison to torture, “action or practice of inflicting severe pain on someone as a punishment or to force them to do or say something, or for the pleasure of the person inflicting the pain.”
The two definitions are actually quite similar, when you think about it which brings us to the fact that it’s horrible. Take a minute for a second can you even imagine, imagine the person, the person that supposedly loves you hitting you, punishing you, controlling you, disrespecting you. Picking at every piece of your self esteem to the point were all you can do is cry, living in fear of anyone finding out, because of what the person would do back or worse to them. Domestic abuse is one of the worst thing a person can commit in this world, because they truly are destroying a person who won’t give up on them. You are acting like a monster, if you are committing this because it’s something no one in this world could look at and see a reasonable reason for it.
An eye for an eye does not apply to this kind of situation, so if your doing it out of spite that’s just shameful, if they hurt you just leave them don’t be petty and become this. If it’s because it’s how you were raised, it’s what you saw when you were growing up, it comes in anyway from your upbringing then stop it right now, you have no right to be doing and neither did whoever taught you. For the men that do this specifically think about your mothers when you are hurting the one you love, what would the women who brought you into this world think, without women we would not be here. In the same vein girls, think about your fathers, who wanted you to be strong, what would they think if you were destroying another person. Domestic abuse is one of the things in this world that shouldn’t exist at all. If you’ve experienced it, or are experiencing it don’t stay quiet find a way to get it out, to expose the monster they are to the world.