Howie Defranco: New Beginnings

Hello everyone, it’s me Howie Defranco and we are just a few days from the New Year as I am writing this, a time of new beginning so to speak.  I chose to write this because I feel like we all need a little hope, 2016 was a heart wrenching, head smashing shamble of a year for the most part at least as so many people say.  I don’t know I just heard that Carrie Fisher passed away over the holidays, as did her mother Debbie Reynolds literally from a broken heart, as did George Michael and right now I know I need something to look forward to.  First I’d just like to say that my deepest condolences go out to the families and fans of of everyone who was lost this year and every victim of persecution and unlawful action. There was a lot this year and I seen a number of posts about the good in 2016 but let’s talk about what’s to come.

As such though here comes 2017 a year for a fresh start, yes I know that a lot of people say that and most people will say it’s just another day but I strongly disagree.  There are so many things that come with the start of a new year from new people, to new opportunities to new adventures good and bad their just as important as one another as they shape who we are.  It’s the next chapter in our lives, the new part of the story do not dread it despite what you may be expecting to come next year.  It’s true though you don’t just wake the morning of January first and it’s like someone hit the reset button on the game you call life.  Wish it were sometimes I admit but no this isn’t something you are just given.

We all know that life doesn’t work that way, could you imagine how much easier everything would be if it did.  No though it gives you an opportunity that it is your job to take advantage of and that opportunity is in simplest word hope.  Hope is a lot of things, but everything from no beginnings, to taking a chance, to a rebellion is built on hope, the hope that things will change.  Some of you may laugh at the idea of hope I have before, given up on it completely until I was told hope is a necessity for change for the better.  Change is one of the biggest constants in the universe, whether it be the weather everyday, new fads every year, or even ourselves, no one person stays the same from birth to death.

As such changes are coming with this new year, for one thing there is a new president of the united states and whether you approve of him or not, that comes with a bit of hope.  It could be hope that he doesn’t put the country in worse shape or hope that he keeps his word and makes it great again.  In August all of Canada will have the chance to view a solar eclipse and I’m personally quite excited to see what this Canada Day brings as we will be 150 this year.  I don’t know I think we just all need some hope this year between the events of this year Paris, Allepo, Trump’s victory, rising racial tensions in the states, legends we have lost.  So everyone just and not to sound corny go out there take the opportunities that come your way make 2017 your year!

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Howie: The Measure of a Person

Hi everyone it’s Howie Defranco and today were going to talk about something very not important to me but important to my history, and a few things the world forgets sometimes.  First thing I’m going to say is that the world is going to think and say whatever it wants to about you, sadly people do not all think the same about most issues.  So they’re going to judge you a lot of people will judge you on everything about you, your past, your body, your skin, your intelligence, everything about you the world and a lot of its people think they have a right to judge.  They don’t see what the true measure of a person really is often they look at your mistake, or something they think is and that’s it their mind is made up from that moment.  We live in a world wrought with this kind of mentality which has improved do not mistake that, but people still judge.  Some think it is fun, they gossip and laugh, some no it’s cruel and use it to hurt and some just make a joke not realizing what they said.

So now I’m going to tell you a bit of a story, so grab some popcorn and get a drink.  I am the son of a guy who I could never call a man, in fact I call him sperm donor.  I’ve never met him that I can remember and in fact he left my mother two weeks before I was born.  He met me though, my mom called him and said your son was born you should at least come meet him, he basically showed up and said, ok I met him anything else.  I wasn’t there so I don’t know the exact wording and I was 18 when my mother finally told me that part that he had met me.  So her words were foggy to me as well.  I’m telling you this because I judge myself for being his son a lot, my mother reminds me a lot how I look like him or even act like him in the moments when my mood is not at it’s best.  I hate my father for leaving I do not because I wish he’d stayed even slightly but because I’m afraid I might turn into him someday.  I’ve worked everyday of my life to disprove that and yet I’m still judged by people even people I’m closest too.

When I say I’ve worked I mean I’m there as much as I can be for everyone in my life, I worked hard in school up until I lost my drive for it and everyday I put 100% into my job.  These things people judge me for, in high school, I never missed an assignment up until grade 12 and had straight A’s but people called me lazy because they never saw me doing any work, for that matter one person called me out as a cheat and that had to be disproved, which it was.  I’ve probably in the last few years spent more money and time with my friends than I ever thought I would but I’ve had friends who say it’s not enough, they told me I’m not there for them because of the one time I would be unable to go see them or join them or help them.  One of them I gave 300$ to so he could go see his girlfriend in the states a week later I chose not to join him in a dangerous situation he told me it was fine, not to go to and said I do not do enough for him because of it.  I was a supervisor for all of 4 months before I left my old job and people I had worked with for years complained to other management for how I spoke to them after I was promoted.  Apparently saying, “hey I have this person to cover you can you please go do your cleaning duty?” is rude and saying thank you after they were done didn’t help.  People judge a person daily from something as simple as thinking they will respond to something in a certain way, or they can have pre-conceived assumptions about a person or any number of things.

If you want to measure yourself, on how good or strong of a person you are you have to ignore other people’s and even your own judgments and it is hard, because there’s 7 billion other people in this world.  We still need friends, family, someone to love, to hold, to kiss, to miss, and because of this we do worry about what other people think. We let it get to us and dig it’s way into our brains.  Then we go out into the world with our masks on pretending everything is alright.  Be who you want to be not what people expect you to be and you might find that you still find all of what you want, it’s not a guarantee but why not risk it all to get it all.  The measure of a person is who they chose to be and they’re actions to be that person not what everyone thinks.

-Howie

Howie Defranco, Memories and Opening Scars 

Hey blog readers it’s Howie Defranco here and I want to talk about scars and memories a bit, we all have both those things. Let me state that again we all have memories and scars, which in a lot of ways are the most painful things there are. People say they fade or can be forgotten but they’re still there and they have no problem causing you pain when they are brought back up. Scars reopened are worse then most wounds. It’s sad that our own minds, can bring up such painful things, things we want to leave in the past and when we forget we tell ourselves we’re better but something, a song, a book, a name, a place, a day can just bring it all back on you. Partly because when remembering some things you don’t just remember them, you relive them like they were yesterday and scars associated with said memory are opened.  
    Oddly enough my trigger was a friend, I hadn’t seen since high school she’s been having a rough time lately and asked if she could talk to me about them saying she just remembered me as an understanding person and that I wouldn’t judge her. This was it the beginning of October when I was doing really well with everything I felt good about my life and myself, I thought I had moved on from things I’ve talked about before. During our conversation she started asking me things though about people I wanted to leave in my past, which I answered. She talked a lot about 2 people in particular I did not want to hear about quite a bit, who have been in my blogs before. I thought I was okay but I started to remember things, first the good, the memories of my happy moments with those people in my past. Those good memories slowly started to sting though to think about, which only lead to me remembering the bad.  
I cried that night after she went home, and it’s because I wasn’t just remembering it all I was reliving it all. The heartache, the betrayal, the loneliness, and I still am right now. These open scars have giving me many close to sleepless nights the last month, and I’m one of those people when I can’t sleep I roll around a million times and I don’t turn on my electronics. For all I want to do is sleep and it escapes me and the next day I’m tired and annoyed. Then this past week I broke down, I can’t help remembering it’s the last time I spoke to the first person I thought I was in love with, though it was unrequited I once considered it my greatest failure, more recently my greatest mistake. As well an event is coming up this next weekend I look forward to every year and I’m honestly scared I will see if not one every one of the people I want to leave in my past, knowing my luck I will and on the days I’m going to be alone at the event.
I haven’t really told anyone I let this all hit me so hard because I’m ashamed that memories are what the problem is. I know the people in my life aren’t the ones who made these memories and that the person those people hurt is a much better person and even back then I was not what they thought of me, I was not a loser, a bad friend, a weak person. I can’t help feeling scared though, scared that these people I love and care about in my life right now will see what the ones who hurt me did. That I’m not worth they’re time and their compassion and their respect.  
The mind betrays you to your memories for they can be cruel friends. Yes memories are our friends, in years late in life, moments when we’re alone, when we want to remember our best moments memories are our greatest friends. When they are corrupted by the scars we have received though they feel like our greatest enemies, our demons. Just because something can be forgotten does not mean it cannot be remembered again. It just takes a trigger to remind you of something painful and doesn’t help if you still are afraid of the past.

Howie, Asks Where Are The Leaders?

Hey blog readers it’s me Howie Defranco and today we will be discussing a very serious and important topic. The 2016 American presidential election or as I think of it the lesser of two evils before I begin I’m not trying to push anyone to choose a side or trying to say anyone’s beliefs are wrong. In fact this is about something that needs to be said where are all the leaders? Despite your views and beliefs look at these two candidates a “businessman” and I use that term loosely on Donald and a power hungry trust less politician, who should’ve been the first woman president and a strong role model. Look at this campaign though it’s a battle of who can smear the other more, watch their debates if you disagree.  Ok I’m going to get this out of the way look at Donald first, yes he’s rich, his companies have also gone bankrupt 6 times I believe and he doesn’t pay taxes,  he doesn’t respect other cultures or woman.  I appreciate the fact he was once a strong figure, a long time ago and has managed to stay fairly in the limelight despite all of the above though, that takes a strong mind believe it or not.  Then Hilary who has been in politics for 30+ years now, the whole email breaking national security debacle is my biggest thing against her besides the fact she seems so power hungry, 2008 the race against Obama, she didn’t focus on issues as much as beating Obama and she got herself in a smear contest with Donald because she would rather beat him then win the election.

Hold on, hold on we’re talking about the next leader of one of the big 5 (China, Russia, U.K., America and France) these are who you chose between to represent and fix the problems of one of these countries? These 5 are the big 5 because they are the permanent members of the UN Security Council and right now I don’t even want to think about either of them being a part of that.

Back to the question at hand then where are all the leaders this year? I understand that some Americans feel like the Obama didn’t do or help much but Obama put plans in motion and it takes more time then he had to finish them. So after that though where back to the old saying “A good (person) can’t get elected president.”? Which is completely untrue, yes the Bushes, Nixon, Reagan, Clinton, Johnson, I think I missed one of the recent ones have not been the best leaders. In fact some of been down right horrible and betrayed their duties and turned America into a joke. Despite whatever the world thinks of it right now, America used to be the country of dreamers, and it used to stand for something, which is why it became so powerful. That of course in the eyes of the world went to America’s head power does corrupt but let’s not talk about that right now as that’s a stereotype. Most Americans are good people and are still dreamers, I’ve met a lot that I like, are hard workers and have strong beliefs most people would agree on.

They’re still inspired, they still look to the good men and women of the county’s history. Theodore Roosevelt, Freddy Roosevelt, John F Kennedy, Martin Luther King Jr., Abraham Lincoln, George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Susan B. Anthony, Andrew Jackson, Eleanor Roosevelt. I could go on but where are they, the children that idolized these people. Why are they not taking a stand and saying this is ridiculous, neither of these too made you excited unless you’re looking forward to the press pieces about their quarrel. They don’t make you think America well be great again they make you worry if it’ll even be in one piece in January.

Where are the dreamers, the people that inspired me, the ones who made me believe good people could do anything no matter the odds.  Yes I’m Canadian but a lot of my heroes politically, spiritually and inspirationally speaking are Americans. “I have a dream” right?, That’s the line from one of the greatest and most influential speeches there ever was. You still have people this creative, this strong, this dignified that the people can trust not a man who has said he’ll be the second person ever to not accept the results had he lost or a woman who was accused of breaking national security and although has apologized and was kind of cleared, that’s not someone I would take as a leader, so where are they? At a time when this country seems to be reverting to base hate and fear complete with tensions between cops and people of color at a boiling point, people shooting up clubs of people that are from the LGBTQ community, creepy clowns running around, fear of imminent terrorist threats that can be absolutely irrational at times and 2 presidential candidates one who wants to build a wall and another who wants to hide behind it.

Where are the dreamers of America? Why aren’t they taking a stand to help their home, disregard the stereotypes and make the country the leaders they once were?

Dream On
-Howie

Howie: Depression Part 2 (Electric Boogaloo)

Hey blog readers, it’s Howie Defranco here and today’s topic is depression specifically the second part of a blog I wrote last year. This blog has changed drastically from the idea had to write for this a month ago, for the better mind you as the part of depression we’re talking about is the after. If you’ve read my previous one you know I covered both causes and how it feels to be depressed and said that everyone goes through it differently and in different stretches of time. At some point though people need to stop being pulled down and need to stop feeling as though they’re drowning. Sadly that point comes to happen one way or the other, by taking their life or they’re life changing for the better.

You could take your life, you could it’s a quick easy end to your suffering and no one can blame you for doing it. However, you’re robbing the world of your life, your talent whatever it may be and whoever loves you of your love. Yes ladies and gents, your life matters because despite how it may be going right now it’s apart of the story it isn’t the whole story though. You thrived once, laughed once, felt joy, felt love, had hope, one of these things came into your life before and it may be staring you in the face right now. Looking to pull you out, or at the least give you ground to stand on. A person in your position doesn’t have to let it go, they might, or move on sure but if you can be reminded of the pain everyday and still feel good about yourself. You just have to look for that reason to smile. I mentioned that before to that taking it one day at a time was important and looking for your reason to keep going was too.

Once you find that though that bit of faith, you have to use it. Faith and hope and love are powerful emotions that can change you’re views for the better, I told you all in my last blog about that I thought I was starting to get better, I wasn’t I was just holding on to that piece of hope. I hadn’t changed anything in my life hadn’t fixed anything, still was doing things to forget the pain I didn’t want to be doing anymore. Then last month I took a leap of faith in myself, I applied for a new job at this point it was the biggest thing holding me back in my life. I stayed for a long time there because I was comfortable and I think that was a bad idea, I think it was just a reminder of everything that happened the last few years. Not to mention a constant stressor and that every day it chipped away at what little self esteem I had everyday.

So I took a leap of faith to change that get rid of it and I ended up proving to myself that I could do something like that. That I was strong enough to fix my life and pick up the pieces that people had left shattered. It all came from just finding one reason to go on everyday for I guess 5 years now it feels a lot longer.

However the purpose of this blog I need you whoever you are to understand. This is not someone saying hey look things work out, this not someone saying hey look at I fixed things. That is not the point and if that’s what I conveyed I owe you an apology. For the purpose was to say things come in time, pain doesn’t necessarily go away it gets pushed to the side. You can’t push it all at once though, it takes a bit every day. Every day you have to push it a millimetre, a centimetre, a metre, a kilometre away, until it’s far enough away. Far enough that you can remember and feel the pain without feeling the suffering.

Howie on The Death Penalty

Hey Blog readers, it’s Howie Defranco and today’s topic is the death penalty. Let me start by saying that although I have some very strong views on some types of criminals, I think the death penalty is an inhumane answer to the problem. Mind you in Canada it is already abolished, but it still goes on in parts of the world including are neighbours down south. Which oddly enough in recent years polls say the amount of people in both countries is very close, scary thought if they ever tried to reintroduce it.
Could you please now close your eyes for a minute and imagine a dark room, no windows barely any light that you’ve been in for years. There’s a person there with you a religious figure giving you your last conversation, your then taken away to another room. A room where your put on an ice cold metallic table. Their are men strapping you down to this table, your legs, your wrists and one on your forehead. You feel something brushing against the skin of your arm, you start to cry as you know it’s coming, cry because your innocent, you know you are but the world thinks you committed an atrocity. You’ll never get to see your family again, or see the light of day, that’s when you feel the prick and drift. Drift into endless slumber…

That is the “humane” way of caring out the sentence assuming that nothing goes wrong, the man with the needle, probably not a nurse or a doctor as most medical professionals refuse to take part. Hopefully he has actually gotten the vein. That’s right ladies and gents most executions like this aren’t carried out by some with a medical degree or much training. This is far from the worst practices for carrying out capital punishment, shooting, hanging, electrocutions, they all still happen not necessarily in the states mind you but it’s the 21st century and we’re still here.  Still living with the concept of eye for an eye. What if the “criminal” is innocent, and you’ve just taken a life for no reason, or they just made a mistake? Is it fair they pay the ultimate price? Yes ok their are a lot of crimes that are unforgivable, sexual assault, murder, pedophillia , terrorism but hey lets just break our own laws and kill them back. Yes it might be legal but it’s a giant double standard smacking the world in the face, if they don’t have the right to take lives, hurt lives, attack the world, what right do we have to take their life?

The answer is simple we do not as race have the right to take urine and call it grandma’s peach iced tea. Criminals should pay their time and be rehabilitated or continue to be confined, because we can’t kill them all. Sure it starts with capital punishment for the big crimes, then hey why don’t we do it for all crime and end it, then we’re living in some 1984 and Gattaca merged world were people are tortured for even the slightest misstep and people are trying to make perfect humans.  I may have gone quite far with that train of thought but the point is where is the line, when does it end. We stoop to their level and were no better than the criminals and terrorists whose lives were taking. Can anyone say differently? Can anyone really say there’s a difference between a law that contradicts another law but is somehow ok and that law it contradicts?

Howie Defranco Talks Psychopaths

Hey blog readers, it’s me Howie Defranco and today our topic is Psychopaths. Now what is a psychopath well dictionary.com defines it as,
  “a person with a psychopathic personality, which manifests as amoral and antisocial behavior, lack of ability to love or establish meaningful personal relationships, extreme egocentricity, failure tolearn from experience, etc.”
Which is a very distinct definition from the derogatory term we use which is an insane, obsessive possibly violent person. Fairly different aren’t they, when you put it that way, well actually both ways you have an idea of both people in your head.
Person A: a not well adjusted member of society who seems to not want to be around other people, obsesses over themselves and can never learn.
Person B: Someone who is well frightening and unpredictable to you, examples would be a stalker or a psychotic person.
Which by the way is the proper term for person B not psychopath as a psychotic is the one who is dangerous. Psychopaths where as are more of an outsider to society than anything else, I know two in my life who have developed both in two very different ways.
One is a person who in high school was a very obsessive, methodical person, who acted like they had feeling for others. They made though every relationship about them, every plan about them and she did not give others a second thought usually. She acted and still does act like she’s the centre of the universe and she never learns no matter how many people leave her. As well she always believed everyone outside of a small group of people were always out to get her and that it was her against the world.
That’s one way a psychopath can turn out is a person who is stuck as one, I still hear about her every now and then and she hasn’t changed sadly, while my other example has.
In high school he was distant from everyone and more than anything concerned for himself over everyone else. He still doesn’t learn from his mistakes always having chose that his first idea is the best and to stubborn and self absorbed to listen to anyone else. Although nowadays he’s more open with people, he chooses to spend time with them, has a loving relationship and at heart is a good person. At the same time though he has a massive ego still that well is hard to bruise, unfortunately meaning he does not know much about bring humble.
If you identify as a psychopath, #1 don’t take it as an insult, it’s not and anyone who uses it as one is probably unaware of the difference. #2 try, just try every day, find a partner, make some friends, try thinking of others, or being humble. After all were just people

Howie Defranco on Insanity

Albert Einstein once defined insanity, as doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result, therefore sanity would be the opposite. Wouldn’t it? Sanity would be defined by one of the smartest people in our history as trying the same thing over and over again expecting the same result. It could also be doing something different every time expecting different results, which makes true sanity unobtainable. For despite all our differences and all our advancements, we are nothing more than creatures of habit, and we all at one point become complacent with insanity. It’s a weird thought but there’s no better way to talk about insanity then to state right off the bat that we’re all insane.
Hi I’m Howie Defranco and as you can tell I’m starting this blog a bit differently than my normal ones because we’re talking about insanity. There are two types of it in this world the first is above and we’re going to talk more about it and the other being less theoretical insanity more of the needs to talk to someone now before bad things happen. The second one of those is what you would use as a derogatory term for as my favourite definition goes “someone or something that doesn’t make sense to you.” It’s not necessarily crazy or outlandish it’s just not in your wheelhouse and it can lead to people being flamboyant or people turning out like well let’s say Joker (it’s an extreme example but entirely possible). The reason I combine the derogatory term with this definition is because those are the people you’d call insane most of the time.
People who have gained notary as insane like that really need help, whether it be therapy or just someone to talk to before things go bad and they need to open up to. After all insanity is just what can come of a mental disorder, depression, ptsd, schizophrenia to name just a few can lead to people becoming insane. I take you now to 1979 in San Diego where we have one of the most famous school shootings in the world. When a sixteen year old girl killed two people and injured eight more on a Monday morning, Brenda Spencer was tried as an adult for her actions and leading up to that she had been found to have trauma to her brain and it was suggested she had depression. During all of this though she was contacted as she hid in her own home by a reporter who asked her, why she was doing this. Her response was simply I don’t like Mondays. There have been plenty of shootings like this since and people like it need to be given help, so they can become members of society again.
Now let’s jump back to the theoretical insanity, you know the one that says we’re all insane. It’s true though we all are, just look at what we try to do every day. Reach our goals, whatever they may be most people continuously push through to reach a goal by doing the same thing over and over with no change to the results. How about just our interactions with people, most of the time no matter what result we want, we talk to them the same way we normally do and our disappointed when the result doesn’t change. You probably can think of more examples of these instances we are insane but you know what stinks to high heaven the fact there’s nothing we can do.
We’re going to be insane we’re gonna go out there and just try to change how we do things because there’s not much else we con do

Howie Defranco Talks Child Abuse

Hey blog readers, it’s Howie Defranco and today’s topic is child abuse, and hey this is like my third blog on abuse. So hopefully you know my stance already, that I think abuse is equivalent of torture and that people who do it need to reevaluate their value of life. So having said that lets start talking about child abuse, mental, physical, and sexual it’s the trifecta of abuse because it comes in all forms. Which makes it very disturbing as look just read that sentence again and think we do this to children…. TO CHILDREN. That right there is the worst most heinous thing I can think about a society where people can get away with abusing their children.
Let’s be clear about that though, there are laws in place, the abusers can go to jail, their children (if it’s there’s) sent to a foster home. A foster home where it is entirely possible the whole thing could happen again and the cycle begins again, destroying the child’s psyche, self esteem and view of the world. Better yet that child some how could grow up thinking it was all their fault that their abusers had a right to do it and they should be ashamed of it. Even then they could be the kid that grows up with it then when they have kids, they think it’s ok to act like their parents did and become abuser’s themselves. It’s honestly a vicious cycle that in a perfect world would be more than outlawed but alas this is what we live in.
To bring this to a point though and not just me ranting, if your a kid reading this, or anyone still living at home stop right now and think about the fact you can try to stand up. Try being the word, if you don’t think you can tell someone you trust, someone who can for you, who can protect you. For the good adults reading this, look out for the young people in your life, nurture them, protect them, show them there are good, strong, kind people in this world. For this world is filled with them but sadly the few people who aren’t go to far and wreck others lives.

Howie Defranco on Bullying

Hey blog readers, it’s Howie Defranco and today the topic is Bullying: the story of an underdog. Ok I’m the type of guy that should’ve been bullied in high school, the complete stereotype, I was nerdy, chunky, weird, awkward, a momma’ boy, I didn’t drink or smoke, was basically a goody two shoes and always had my homework done. That was high school though in elementary school, there was this kid, for references sake let’s call him Biff, now Biff was a rider guy but he usually left me alone until one day he started calling me names. How I was in grade 5 so it was a big deal to me, you know I’d never had a bully before or anything so I went crying home to my mom and told her about him. She said I needed to stand up for myself.
Which I took to heart and came to school the next day, it was a bit before school and he came up and called me I think fatboy? I was 10 it’s hard to remember which name it was, but I flipped him off (first time I flipped anyone off) and walked away. He walked up behind me and punched me in the back of the head, so I turned around and started fighting him and I’m a pacifist but for the right reasons I’ll take a stand. So he’s kinda swiping at my head and I’m in close fighting like something from dragon ball cause that’s what I’ve seen fighting wise. Three of my classmates came and pulled me off, and I went straight to my teacher told him everything that happened. To which Biff and I were sent to the office and I was called the bully by the principal, to which both my teacher and mother said no he was standing up for himself.
That story makes me smile because I took a stand and said no more sand I’d like to think that’s why I wasn’t bullied after that. I’m not trying to encourage violence here but if your being bullied it’s like I said in my child abuse blog try to take a stand, try and if you can’t then get someone who can, that you trust to help you. For bullying is not right, even if your bullying someone because they bullied you, it’s diminishing someone else’s value. Who knows to that bully could become a friend, Biff and I did through high school, not close now but we respected each other.

Howie Defranco, Animal Abuse: The Value of Life

Hey blog readers, it’s Howie Defranco and today we’re going to be talking about animal abuse. Let’s see what’s the best way to say this, if you are abusing an animal then you are petty and little. I could say a lot ruder things and should but I’m not really allowed to in these blogs, I believe I made my view on abuse very clear before in my sexual abuse blog. It is a means of torture, you are torturing these animals to satisfy your own needs and hurting these wonderful creatures is a shame on our own history. Genetically speaking, we evolved from some of these animals, and here people are testing drugs on them, stealing their fur, killing them for sport, and stealing pieces of them.  
Now wait a second, wait a second I just said killing them for sport, but people hunt animals, what’s the difference, why didn’t I say hunt. Hunting is meant as a way of getting food, a way of surviving, it’s part of the natural order. Lions, Bears, Sharks, and etc… hunt for food it’s part of the circle of life so to speak but do any of them kill their prey and not eat them to survive. No because that’s a waste of life and animals understand that, humans on the other hand well they kill and use the caracas as a trophy. I’m a pacifist but if you kill for survival then you are doing what you need to do to survive, if you do it just for the sake of doing it then you need to rethink your life choices.
Rethink them right now, if animal life means so little to you, if the abuse and torture they go through means nothing then what does life mean to you. Your life matters no more than theirs, they walk, they breathe, they communicate, their self-aware, they have families, what so different? What makes animal life so much less important then human life and why are so many okay with it. So stop right now and think about it what is your value of life if this is how you treat something that is living.

Howie Defranco on Sexual Health

Hey blog readers, it’s me Howie Defranco and today we are going to talk about sexual health. Sexual health is a topic that encompasses multiple other topics, including sexuality, rights, the obvious medical side and relationships. Today we’re going to touch on all those points because they’re all important aspects of maintaining sexual health. I will include some personal stuff along the way, about my own limited sexual experiences as well. Anyways though let’s get started, so ya see there are these birds and these bees and… Oh wait that’s not the right conversation.
First let’s start with sexuality, a fun part of this topic because it’s about who you are sexually and being comfortable with it. Sexuality, is our gender, our sexual orientation, our desires, our preferences, everything that makes sex fun is sexuality. Now being comfortable with what you like is part of being sexual healthy, I mean let’s just say you like something and you’re ashamed of it. That statement just doesn’t work because it hurts your mental state to think that way and that’s not good. Find a way to be comfortable with what you like and your sexual health and mental state will improve greatly. For example, I’m very comfortable with my sexuality, I know what I like and what I don’t and I let my partners know that and because of that I always enjoy it, and they generally do the same with me.
If you’ve read my other blogs you know I’ve never had a relationship, but I’ve had sex a few times now. It has always been consensual though which is important when you start talking about sexual health. The rights of people matter just as much in the bedroom as they do out of it, I mean sex without consent is nothing it has no meaning and it is something that just hurts people. There are lots of different kinds of sex but none are worth it without respecting the other persons rights.
Between the ages of 16 and 19 I was obsessed with the idea of losing my virginity, and it like consumed me. The reason I’m talking about this is because my sexual health back then was horrible, I wasn’t comfortable with my sexuality. I wasn’t comfortable because I was confused about what I even liked back then, I questioned everything did I like this, would I like this, I feel ashamed for liking this. It went on and on but at 19 it came to a point where it was enough, I did something to lose my virginity, and it was only a good experience because the other person consented to it. I’m just making the point that without those things not only is sex not fun, it’s not healthy for you, it hurts you.
Which brings us to the medical side, look if you’re having sex then be safe, wear a condom, use birth control. Be aware of possible diseases and how to prevent the, because in this day and age there’s every way to avoid catching something but it only takes one wrong move for that to go bad.
Finally it brings us to sexual relationships, sex is intimacy it really is and it brings two people closer by having it. I know a couple of the girls I been with after I felt like I could feel their heart beat with mine and it made a connection I don’t have with anyone. Just make sure that the relationship is both mutually beneficial and is in no way, something controlling you or hurting you. It’s supposed to be fun and feel good for everyone involved just remember that.
To end this all off I’m gonna say that sex is healing, it does relieve stress and clear your mind. Just make sure you do it right and that you are safe about it.

Howie Defranco’s Favourite Video Game

Hey blog readers, it’s me Howie  Defranco and today is fun day and the topic is our favourite video games. Well look mine is a hard choice, I could say Arkham city for its well told story, I could say GTA V for its online aspect, I could say Pokemon for my sheer dedication over the last however long. None of those, though because it has to be the game I’ve played most, and have comeback to many times over the years, Kingdom Hearts 2. The first kingdom hearts was awesome don’t get me wrong but the second one was where the game hit its stride. So much so that that people still clamour to buy all the spin off games waiting for a true sequel, 11 years later now.
The game was incredible, combining a great story, with Disney characters and great gameplay that just drew you in. It’s a story I’ve played through maybe 30-40 times since the first time I picked it up because I just want to play it again, especially the battle for Hollow Bastion level. It was the best part because there’s a point in it when your team leaves you and your stuck fighting a thousand heartless alone and it’s purely a brave heart moment. Then there’s the song, Sanctuary, still one of my favourites today every time I hear it I just drift back into a simpler time when I’d play games all day long.

Howie Defranco’s Life Goals

Hey blog readers, it’s me Howie Defranco and today our topic is perfect for me cause I’m still trying to figure them out. Life Goals are something everyone has and are the driving force in your life for almost if not all your decisions in life. Now everyone has at least one but might call it something different for example, their dreams. Dreams are life goals because everything is achievable believe it or not if you dedicate yourself to the idea of it. To be honest this blog is gonna go personal because how can you talk about life goals and not talk about your own.
As I see it life goals are divided into to two different aspects of life professional and personal. So let’s start with my professional life goals, at the moment they’re ever changing haha. When I was kid I dreamed of being the kid who became the greatest video game designer of all time, then in high school it became I want my name on a building. This was the driving point behind my post secondary ideas for school, first law so I could open my own firm, or accounting which once again could open my own firm. Then I found those didn’t interest me, so right now I’m trying to find a new goal in this aspect of life. It is going ok so far, still not sure what I want to do but that’s ok my life is pretty good right now and I’m happy where I am.
Which brings us to personal, in which my goal is very detailed and specific and has stepped. Step one find the girl, not the perfect girl the right girl the one that laughs at my dumb jokes, who I can make smile everyday, who I can hold when I feel lost and who can hold me when’s she’s sad. She’s out there somewhere waiting for me to find her but I just don’t know where to look still. Step two make her feel like she’s the most important person in my life everyday, marry her and continue making her feel that way, as well her hopefully making me feel the same. Step three make a home and start a family, with like a big family, I’ve always wanted a big one because well I love the idea. Step four grow old together.
Well that’s life goals everybody, whatever yours are fight for them. Fight to make them happen, make them special, make them your life. They drive you remember that, you can choose them but they must be able to drive you.