When it comes to teen pregnancy or teen parents I feel that so many people have such a negative outlook because all of the stereotypes. Even when I was 18 with a brand new baby boy I would always consider myself a young parent of all the negative stigma around the label teen parents. But no matter how much I tried I was still stuck in the middle of people judgement. Because yes being a young parent I struggled, I got looked down on, bullied, I had a bad day, but I had good days as well. When I found out that I was pregnant I had a mixed feeling I was happy, but I was 17 and very nervous and scared. I was looking into adoption and researching my options. After a week I had found myself in a book story just browsing the ally’s when I came across my favorite childhood book. As I was reading through it I realized I wasn’t ready for a child but I knew I would do anything in my power to make sure that my child would have anything it needed. I went home that night and explained to my boyfriend how I felt and how I felt and let him know I was keeping the child. My family didn’t quite understand but did grow to accept it. I ended up having to change schools in the middle of my grade 12 year to go to a school that offered a teen mom program. I did well in school and I had a choice to graduate on time but I held myself back so that I could upgrade some of my courses. After my son was born I moved in with his father, but it ended up us splitting up 8 months later. I started going out with one of my best friends at the time. I had so many people tell me it wasn’t going to last because he was only 16 and I was 18 with a child, little did they know my son 4 and calling him his 2nd daddy. Even through all those droughts are relationship still growing stronger? My son’s father and I didn’t get along well after we first broke up, but we worked through are differences and we are now really good friends. We now all work well making co-parenting a lot easier because of it.
Even though I am a teen parent, good thing can still happen I am not encouraging youth to go out and have children at a young age. But I want people especially the youth going through this to know it’s not the end of your life, it’s a new beginning and a new way of looking at the world. I was able to complete college and I graduated a few months ago. Now I’m working in a career that I love. So the mom’s or mom’s to be of any age. I wish you the best and I hope you don’t give up hope. Also remember know matter what chose you make it is the right one if it feels best for you.
If I could change something I would love for there to be more open support programs available, the school I went to have a one year waiting list just to get into the school. But I am happy for all the support that are already in place but I wish there were more especially for young fathers. When it comes to young father the lack of resource does really concern me because they need to have just as much help as young mothers because they may not be the ones caring the baby but they do carry a similar burden for that child.
- Teen pregnancy is only the young women fault.
I’m sorry but it takes two to tango. But being honest, there is no way possible for a women to conserve a child on her own. I don’t know where this stereotype came from unless it’s from the time of where boys can do no wrong. That does not slid with this time in age.
- All teen moms are single mom
Well from my own experience I am I know so many young mom’s that are in a relationship. And to be honestly there are men out there that love kids and wouldn’t mind anyone who would love to help raise a child. And like I said in my LGBTQ2IA blog I believe there is someone for everyone. So to all the single mothers don’t give up hope because there will be someone out there somewhere.
- Teen moms don’t enjoy mother hood.
For one I love motherhood. I wouldn’t give it up for the world, and two who has the right to tell someone how they feel, how someone else experience something. It is not up to anyone else to feel how anyone else can feel. There is a big difference between empathy and judging.