Now that the break we thought would give us enough time to sort out all our kinks and get our blogs rolling out quicker is over it is time to touch base with everyone.
First of all we are extremely greatful for everyone who continues to read our blogs. It means a lot to us to see people take their time to read what we have to say.
Secondly we have a lot of work still set out in front of us until everything is running smoothly and we are at the place we want to be at. With this we have decided that although we would like to resume putting out two blogs a week, it is still not possible for us to do so at this time.
We do sincerely apologize for the lack of blogs we put up and for not being able to uphold our decision to start putting two blogs a week out again in September.
Thank you for sticking by us, and thank you for reading our blogs.
We will still be posting a blog every Wednesday.
This Is Me Entirely
I know you are hurting, and have been for a very long time. I want you to know that it’s ok to hurt. I know that a lot of people have hurt you over the years, and that in dealing with that you hurt yourself. You made choices that affected your future and you put the blame on yourself when it shouldn’t have been there. I watch you day after day let the hurt that is inside you influence your decisions, and I need you to let it go.
Let go of the pain caused by being bullied in elementary school, it’s far behind you now. In fact you have made amends with most of your bullies, most questions have been answered, and you’ve grown from it. You have learnt many things from those eight years, academically and about yourself as well as those around you. So let that go, it’s been a decade, don’t let that hurt spend one second longer lingering around.
Move past all those failed relationships and all the nasty words flung into the air, you know many of them don’t hold any real footing. Let go of all of the downs, and don’t dwell on the goods.
What I am asking of you is to dig deep down into that hurt and let everything go. I know this is not an easy thing to ask and it’s going to hurt, which makes it hard to ask anyone to do so. I need you to believe me, to have faith in yourself, that in the end the results will be worth it. You don’t need to carry around the burden of old guilt and hurt. So look deep inside and work through all that hurt sitting heavy on your heart piece by piece. Work out why it hurts and what it taught you, focus on that and not the pain. You do not need to forget what happened or forgive the person, but let it go and let it be no more than a stone in the road to the person you are today. Look inside yourself and try and answer those loose ends and unanswered questions, to put the hurt to rest.
Most of all I need you to understand that some things are not your fault, don’t victim blame yourself. Some one did something horrible to you and you never asked them to do so, you are not responsible for their actions. You did not consent to their actions, and there was nothing you could do to stop it. You were sexually assaulted; that person took from you something they were not meant to take, that you tried to stop them from taking. You can not put blame on yourself, there’s nothing you could do to prevent it. Even more so, you need to let it go because there is nothing you can do now to change the events that happened. Please forgive your self, as if you can’t do that how can you be happy?
Why was I away.Hello everyone, sorry I was gone for so long.
A lot of things have been happening lately and I’m going to try my best to explain it all.
A few months ago I fell in a big hole. I was really depressed and I felt very overwhelmed. I wasn’t talking to anyone and it was really hard just to get up in the morning. I didn’t want to deal with anyone or socialize.
At the end of November I got bad news about a man who I considered a father and he passed away. I hadn’t seen him in months and one day right after work I got a call saying that he was in the hospital. I was heart-broken and texted my best friend right away. A couple weeks went by and he passed away the day after I visited him.
I didn’t cry, I wasn’t angry, I wasn’t happy, I just didn’t completely understand what was going on.
In the middle of December I found out an old friend/ex boyfriend of mine passed away from a shooting. He was brought to the hospital and didn’t make it. I haven’t seen him in years but I promised myself I would visit him one day to talk and hang out but I haven’t gotten that chance. He was only 26 years old, had a whole life ahead of him and one situation turned wrong and that was the end of it.
Everything took a toll and I’m still trying to understand “why”.
I cried, I was angry, I blamed myself and felt guilt but today I got back on my feet and I have the motivation to write again.
I was able to talk to a dear friend, and when I was ready, explain why I left the way I did. I’m sorry I was away for so long, but I needed a break to get myself together.
Stay Strong, Stay Beautiful, Stay Positive.
Hey blog readers, it’s me Howie Defranco and today’s topic is mental health, which I find funny as it’s a funny concept to me. For is anyone in this world truly 100% without a doubt mentally healthy from the moment they’re born to the moment they die? I mean the standard for mental health would suggest you’d never be anything but mentally healthy. Maybe that’s just by my standard I don’t know but let’s go to a more specific aspect of mental health, the biological side of it all. I understand this is the point you might want to go to another blog at this point but it’s nice to look at the science-y aspect of life every now and then.
So let’s start with a visualizing type thing, close your eyes and imagine your brain, imagine it like a giant web around you. Now it probably looks like some kinda Internet web type structure with some pulses moving through it. Now imagine that it looks different then what your imagining just change one aspect just a little one, boom your mental state is affected and you are no longer technically mentally healthy. Which you know makes you human most people have had something affect their brain and make them mentally unhealthy but the second you imagined the brain that was different you worried a bit didn’t you.
You were worried about what it would look like and what it means, and if it’s your brain saying this is what’s different about yours. Wouldn’t that be kinda cool your brain itself shows you visually what’s different about you. Now it’s nothing to be anything about its just part of what makes you, who you are, and that’s ok whoever you are. “We all have a spark of madness in us we mustn’t waste it” Robin Williams a great man who battled depression and inspired millions said that. Anyways I guess I strayed a bit away from the science-y side, bottom line though about mental health is just remember it’s a part of you and no one is perfect in the head.
Self care blog
I apologize for not writing this blog. It’s been a hard 2 months for me and my family, a lot of changes and bad news has come for us. It’s something that we will be working through, but I haven’t been able to do much self care, but I will write one and when things clear up and I can focus clearly again. thank you all for being understanding.
Hey blog readers it’s Howie Defranco and today we’re going to discuss the all too important concept of self care. Self care is basically looking after you, your needs and nurturing them, which we all need to do to keep ourselves sane. I mean if all you ever do in life is for someone else, then even if out of love your life is their life not your own. Something to think about for all you altruistic do gooders out there who never think about your own needs. I’m completely calling myself out with that line but I do try to maintain a certain level of self care to but will get to that later. For this is about self care as a whole.
Now all those of you reading this I want you to get in a comfortable position, breathe deep and think of the greatest moment in your life. Then hold that feeling, feel the warmth it brings into your soul and then do it every time you get mad or upset or lose your confidence. Heal yourself with the strength of your memories, it’s an easy form of self care just to choose to remember the good times, to feel that emotion again. Then go find a book, a movie, a song you love and read it, watch it, listen to it and feel good about who you are. For self care is about taking care of who you are and that should matter most to you.