I’ll say flat out that I’m pro-choice, it’s up to the mother and what they decide is best for her. In my next few paragraphs I’ll be talking about my point of view towards abortion so my apology’s to anyone I may offend. Just because I’m pro-choice, I’m also pro-life when it comes to my own child. I do not believe I could ever take the life of my own child. I’ve always said that I would’ve put my child up for adoption if I could not keep the baby. That actual situation came up when I was pregnant with my son, I was unsure if I was going to keep him or not.
My father tried really hard to get me to abort my child, we fought over it for weeks but I knew in my heart I was keeping my child. Yes I was lucky my grandmother was on my side and helped my father see that he was unreasonable but was he really? I had just turned 17, my boyfriend at the time was 19, we hadn’t even hit are one year yet. Looking back now I can see why he was so pushy he was probably scared for me, I am his only girl and in his eyes he still wants to believe I was a virgin. I’m not upset with my father any more, at the time I was because I didn’t want to have an abortion and my grandmother was really against it. My grandmother was unable to have kids because her uterus was misshaped since birth and caused her to miscarry every child she concieved. So both my father and aunt had been adopted, so for her she felt that if someone wasn’t ready, they should give it to a family that wasn’t able to have their own.
I had another experience in my life, it happened right after my mother and father divorced and my mother started looking for comfort in other men. My mother got pregnant with one of the men she had seen, my grandmother was not pleased. My mother got the ultimatum either she gave the baby away or she was kicking both of us out. My mom was desperate she didn’t believe that she could raise two children on her own with nowhere to call home. My mother felt that she really didn’t have a choice and she aborted the baby that week. Its 20 years later and she still wonders what her life would have been like. I wouldn’t say she regrets her decision but she defiantly does wonder and think about what could have been.
In my belief, I think there are certain situations where abortion can be okay. For example if a female is raped and got pregnant from that, would you really want to force her to keep that child? How painful would it be having to look at the face of your child and seeing the face of the man who raped you? I know there are some women that have kept their children and that is also fine, there is a lot of different ways people could go. If though someone is not comfortable with the situation then don’t force them to carry the child knowing that is uncomfortable. Another situation that I think abortion can be okay is say the mother had been on hard drugs or heavy medications that can be harmful to the baby. For me I feel that is unfair to the child because once that baby is born it can start going through withdrawals just like the adult on the drug/medication, and that can cause severe consequences or even death after birth. In that situation what would you do? I certainly wouldn’t be able to watch my child suffer for the rest of his or her life because of one of my mistakes. I don’t know, to me that should be a reason for an abortion.
The one thing I can not agree with is using an abortion as a form of birth control. It’s something that can be very harmful to the female. After every abortion you damage your uterus and the more times you do it can make you less likely to conceive a child when you want one. So I beg of you, especially younger females, think before you jump into things, your body is just as fragile as a babies. There are so many different types of birth control methods. Research them, talk to your doctor experiment different kinds till you find the right ones. I know some times they don’t always work but don’t just leave it up to chance, because honestly 9 times out of 10 right after you leave your guard down you’ll get pregnant and remember there is always a choice and only you can know what the right answer is. Also hey you ever need someone to talk to, there is always someone in a similar situation as you on the internet.
I hope you guys liked my blog. Leave a comment down below if you have any questions or comments. I love hearing from you guys. I know this is a touchy subject, and I apologize again if I offended anyone.
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