Madison’s View of Abortion

​I’ll say flat out that I’m pro-choice, it’s up to the mother and what they decide is best for her. In my next few paragraphs I’ll be talking about my point of view towards abortion so my apology’s to anyone I may offend.  Just because I’m pro-choice, I’m also pro-life when it comes to my own child. I do not believe I could ever take the life of my own child. I’ve always said that I would’ve put my child up for adoption if I could not keep the baby. That actual situation came up when I was pregnant with my son, I was unsure if I was going to keep him or not.

My father tried really hard to get me to abort my child, we fought over it for weeks but I knew in my heart I was keeping my child. Yes I was lucky my grandmother was on my side and helped my father see that he was unreasonable but was he really?  I had just turned 17, my boyfriend at the time was 19, we hadn’t even hit are one year yet. Looking back now I can see why he was so pushy he was probably scared for me, I am his only girl and in his eyes he still wants to believe I was a virgin. I’m not upset with my father any more, at the time I was because I didn’t want to have an abortion and my grandmother was really against it. My grandmother was unable to have kids because her uterus was misshaped since birth and caused her to miscarry every child she concieved. So both my father and aunt had been adopted, so for her she felt that if someone wasn’t ready, they should give it to a family that wasn’t able to have their own.

I had another experience in my life, it happened right after my mother and father divorced and my mother started looking for comfort in other men. My mother got pregnant with one of the men she had seen, my grandmother was not pleased. My mother got the ultimatum either she gave the baby away or she was kicking both of us out. My mom was desperate she didn’t believe that she could raise two children on her own with nowhere to call home. My mother felt that she really didn’t have a choice and she aborted the baby that week. Its 20 years later and she still wonders what her life would have been like. I wouldn’t say she regrets her decision but she defiantly does wonder and think about what could have been.

​In my belief, I think there are certain situations where abortion can be okay. For example if a female is raped and got pregnant from that, would you really want to force her to keep that child? How painful would it be having to look at the face of your child and seeing the face of the man who raped you? I know there are some women that have kept their children and that is also fine, there is a lot of different ways people could go. If though someone is not comfortable with the situation then don’t force them to carry the child knowing that is uncomfortable. Another situation that I think abortion can be okay is say the mother had been on hard drugs or heavy medications that can be harmful to the baby. For me I feel that is unfair to the child because once that baby is born it can start going through withdrawals just like the adult on the drug/medication, and that can cause severe consequences or even death after birth.  In that situation what would you do? I certainly wouldn’t be able to watch my child suffer for the rest of his or her life because of one of my mistakes. I don’t know, to me that should be a reason for an abortion.

The one thing I can not agree with is using an abortion as a form of birth control. It’s something that can be very harmful to the female. After every abortion you damage your uterus and the more times you do it can make you less likely to conceive a child when you want one. So I beg of you, especially younger females, think before you jump into things, your body is just as fragile as a babies. There are so many different types of birth control methods. Research them, talk to your doctor experiment different kinds till you find the right ones. I know some times they don’t always work but don’t just leave it up to chance, because honestly 9 times out of 10 right after you leave your guard down you’ll get pregnant and remember there is always a choice and only you can know what the right answer is. Also hey you ever need someone to talk to, there is always someone in a similar situation as you on the internet.

I hope you guys liked my blog. Leave a comment down below if you have any questions or comments. I love hearing from you guys. I know this is a touchy subject, and I apologize again if I offended anyone.

“Nothing is impossible; the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”
-By Audrey Hepburn

-Madison Taylor

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Marie Talks: Abortion

Whether you are pro-life, pro-choice, or have any opinion on abortion that’s great. You are entitled to your own opinion on abortion. What you are not entitled to is to have a say in someone else’s body.

I do believe in most cases the father of the fetus should have a voice in the decision making. I believe that if the act leading up to the pregnancy was consensual that the fathers feelings should first be taken into account. If the woman does not want the child and wants an abortion because she does not want to be a mother, that’s alright; however what if the father wants the kid and is willing and capable of raise the child completely independently, that should be taken into consideration. However on the flip side if the father is pushing the abortion and the mother is perfectly capable and willing to raise the child on her own, an abortion should not be pushed on her. In no case should a woman feel that she’s being forced through a decision concerning her body.
Yes, I believe that everyone has a right to their choices concerning their body, but I do also believe the decision should be a well educated decision and well thought out as the repercussions of an abortion can be long term. Abortion is an option, no better or worse than keeping the child or putting the child up for adoption, it’s all up to what is best for the mother first and everyone else second.

If the acts leading to the pregnancy was not a consensual act it can be hard to carry the child for nine months. It can be mentally damaging, it can take a major toll on ones wellbeing and emotional state. A lot of people see abortion as the best option, others see putting the child up for adoption as the best option. Whether you choose to abort, keep or put the baby up for adoption no one’s decision was better than the other. It’s all up to what the woman sees fit. I have a huge respect for woman who carry the child to term and put them up for adoption, along with the woman who raise the child, it’s not an easy thing to do.

Whatever the reason may be, whether it’s you are not ready, a medical concern, or anything the choice ultimately is yours and yours alone. It’s not an easy decision to make, no matter what decision you make. No matter the decision, you should never be guilt Ed or put down for it. It is your body not someone else’s.

Personally I am pro-choice. I believe that you have the right to choose what you do to your own body and I will respect and stand by your decision. For myself I am pro-life, as I don’t think I could live with the knowledge that I chose whether or not a living being would have life.

Be Safe. Be Educated. Be Happy.
Marie Olsson xx

Howie talks about abortion

Hey blog readers, it’s Howie Defranco and today we will be talking about abortion, a critical topic for someone who almost wasn’t born.  That’s right I’m an accident and as someone who was both almost adopted and aborted I feel comfortable saying abortion is the business of the person whose choosing or not no one else’s.  Just making a point that is quoting my mother in a way they brought us into this world they can take us out of it.  It’s ultimately the mother’s decision, the father of course should have a say, but it’s not their body it doesn’t affect them the way it does the mother.  That’s why if someone wants to have one or not we can not look down or shame them for that decision.

In the same situation what would you do?  Freak out, cry, have the baby anyway, why?
You don’t know what would happen in that situation, that moment when it wasn’t planned, when you don’t have a loved one to support you.  You’re also asking the child be born into a family that might not be the most responsible, or asking them to end up in a foster system that can abuse children mentally and physically.  What your asking is to force a child to be born, the mother must protect that child if she believes that they are better without this world then they are.